Wednesday, February 8, 2012

What a Bunch of Boobs

Apparently there is still a lot of complaining going on about Facebook's policy against photos of women breastfeeding. Moms are pretty upset because, as they argue, breastfeeding is natural and it is the necessary method for some mothers to feed their child.

Totally true, I completely agree. However, I still can't side with the Facebook protesters. Why? Because these mothers are so. freaking. annoying.

On Monday I unfriended a woman on Facebook. She is a fellow lawyer, and I know her solely through the BarBri prep course we took together more than three years ago. We became friends, but I think we hung out all of three times outside of BarBri. She had a baby last fall, and the woman will not shut up about her breasts.

She's posted about the baby latching on, her nipples cracking, her nipples aching, her nipples GETTING INFECTED WITH YEAST, rashes on her "girls", her "girls" leaking, putting a cup under her leaking "girls", and almost spilling breast milk on her files at work. On Monday she changed her profile picture to an avatar that has a mom and baby logo and says "I Nurse."

For some reason, that was the last straw for me. Lady, I KNOW YOU NURSE. We all know WAAAAAY to much about your nursing woes. What is with the avatar? No one is discriminating about you because you breastfeed your child. What we don't like is your oversharing attitude. I prefer to see you as a professional colleague, not as a milk cow. But because that's all you ever post about, that's all I see you as anymore.

What is the purpose of making sure everyone knows that you breastfeed? If it's to get support from other moms having trouble with breastfeeding, there are online communities for that. Your Facebook account, where you are friends with your professional colleagues, is not the place. And if it's to one-up all the moms who don't breastfeed, then you're a piece of shit. So it all comes across as very "look at me" and superior.

Circling back to the original topic, there are plenty of reasons why people don't want to see pictures of breastfeeding mothers on Facebook. For me, I view it as totally unnecessary and self-absorbed. The vast majority of moms I know would not want to post a picture of them breastfeeding. The ones who do are just weird. There, I said it. Yes, breastfeeding is natural, normal, and there's nothing wrong with doing it in public. If you kid has to eat, your kid has to eat. But you don't have to put it on Facebook. That's not necessary. Childbirth is normal and necessary, too. Would you put that on Facebook?

Get over yourselves.

**UPDATE**
I would have added this to the original post, but I wrote the original post from my phone and I don't know how to do links.

Anyway, to continue my point, there is this that some moms apparently think is hilarious. So, even if you have no issue with a mother breastfeeding in public and are just trying to politely avoid seeing her breast because you live in America and have been socially conditioned to be uncomfortable with public displays of breasts and genitals, you're going to be forced to look at something that looks like a boob anyway. If this is not "look at me, I'm breastfeeding!!!!!!" I don't know what is.